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Friday, September 11, 2009

How much do you share with those you follow?

Communication should always be two-way, of course, but sometimes you wonder how much you should be sharing.

Here's what I mean. I created this site because I don't really have anyone to talk to about my fantasies, my sex life, my wild side, my dirty thoughts and so forth. Sharing with the world at large, as long as I'm anonymous, seemed a good solution. And I love to hear from the people who've found me here, and seem to like what I write. It's flattering and very much a turn-on to hear that I'm making you wet and hot (if you're female) or nice and hard (if you're a guy).

I wonder, though, for those of you who're much more popular, how do you deal with your own fan mail?

See, I will happily read all comments left here, or emails sent to me. I welcome ALL thoughts, no matter how nasty or depraved you think they might be. But I do tend to hold back when sending comments to others, to those whose work I admire. I have to believe that the women whose writings I peruse periodically are positively flooded with admiring missives from the drooling, mouth-breathing perverts out there, and so why should I send them a note telling them how hot I think they are and how hard they make me and how much they turn me on? They've heard it before, I figure, and they probably don't want to hear it from a total stranger. Not to mention the fact that I'm contacting them with a missive like that just shows me up as being just another one of the drooling, mouth-breathing perverts that I despise. You know the ones -- no sense of sensuality or romance, no sense of propriety, no sense of boundaries, no sense of what's appropriate and what's not, and most importantly no sense of what the word "no" means. Incredible.

On the other hand....a few ladies that I've contacted through comments or emails since I started reading their stories tell me in no uncertain terms that they love to hear from fans, love to hear they're being worshiped, love to find out exactly how their hot writings are affecting their audience in general (and in one very nice case, me in particular). Maybe they're in the minority. Maybe not. All I know is that I generally try to keep my comments on your site to the generally-friendly-but-not-graphic, as well as my emails to you directly. I'm never quite sure what you want to hear, after all.

But here? This is my site, my own place of power. Here, I can stand on the rooftops and shout how much your writings turn me on. I can tell you in dirty detail how I was stroking myself while reading one of your stories, making a business-related phone call while I pictured how I would fuck you if you were right here, losing track of the work I was doing because I kept returning to that hot HNT photo you posted and my cock just wouldn't be ignored. Here, I can tell you exactly how hard I am after reading a recent entry on your site, how my shorts are tented obscenely out, how I'm undoing them even now and reaching inside to squeeze myself, standing up tall and proud, angry purple head already dripping pearls of precum all over the place. Here, I can tell you how much I love to flog myself relentlessly while checking out your site, imagining all the naughty things I'd do to you, finally coming so hard that I spurt onto my own shoulder, ending up in a sweaty, sticky mess.

Am I talking about you? Of course I am. You know who you are. And if you don't, just ask. I'm always willing to long as I know you're asking for it.

I'm a gentleman that way -- even if in no other ways.

-- PB


BlueEyes69 said...

Don't get much e-mail, PB, but I do get lots of comments, especially when I post pics. And, yes, I try to reply to all of the comments. So far, only a couple of friends have connected with me via e-mail. Don't know if that helps, but I have enjoyed keeping up with you and knowing you're keeping up with me!


Luna Mauvaise © 2009 said...

HA! PB, you've done it again. Reading my mind; listening to my blog. Saying so. I so appreciate ya, for one.

I can't speak for any others. ;)

The Panserbjørne said...

BlueEyes: Oh, everyone appreciates comments. What I was more curious about is how you deal with overly graphic or suggestive comments or emails. I'm sure you get more than your share. :)

Luna: Glad to hear I'm appreciated...but again, I'm sure everyone's happy to get comments. How do YOU deal with overly suggestive or graphic comments / emails? Do you love them, or do you get squicked out by the idea? I'm honestly curious.

-- PB

Luna Mauvaise © 2009 said...

*Answers will be in the book.* Ha. Just Joshin'. This comment of mine could possibly appear somewhere in there too. It's really just a quote from something silly/true that I said:

"I tend toward overly flirtatious. And extra spicy. And flamed broiled. Or raw. I like descriptions. Who am I?

Answer: *snickers* WORD WHORE."

I suppose I speak for myself. ;) And answer to one; but maybe my mouth is the switch in me.

Answer: *rolls eyes* Dichotomy

There's two of the answers in the book; my gift to you. Cause your writing rocks and stuff.

The Duchess said...

Love comments and emails. It's only been the odd (often foreign for some reason) email that has made me excessively uncomfortable. One the whole though - I love each and every comment and message.

If we don't get positive feedback on what we write, then what is the incentive to continue?

Barefoot Dreamer said...

I know I am not who you are speaking of in the post - however, let me just say that I love comments. Then after getting to "know" each other better emails occasionally. I have become good "friends" with several people. Due to our correspondences mainly.

What I don't appreciate is when a non blogger skips the comment section and heads straight to email.

Comment away - we are suckers for it :)

CW said...

Well, I have been at this for a fair bit, and still love the emails. My volume varies by post...but always appreciated, and nearly always answered. I hold exception for the occasional disgusting clod (non-blogging) sicko.

But otherwise humbled. :-)


The Panserbjørne said...

Duchess: Yes, that's why I try to keep my comments to a PG-13 rating. Don't want to annoy the lady with excessive details. :)

Dreamer: I do try to avoid using emails unless there's something I want ONLY the writer to see. Which is rare. I generally need to get to know someone really well before sending them an email.

CW: That's my point -- I try to moderate my comments so as not to offend the writer. Some have told me they get turned on by getting graphic emails / comments, but most, I imagine, would get squicked out.

-- PB

Fantasia Lillith said...

I Love hearing from my fans/readers/perverts/worshipers. *chuckle*

I love it because it helps me with my craft. What works, what doesn't. WHY did it make you hot? what was it about this piece that spoke to you so much?

Although I will never meet any of the male "worshipers" in person - I have found that I have met some brilliant minds, some fun and unusual men this way. My consort/lover/mate/partner is not ill at ease with this at all. I enjoy the flirting and the mind fucks that come of it. It breeds creativity, inspires me. The women too by the way ...

I draw the line when the first contact is a photo of their dick. That's just rude.

But if you have something to say. something to share and you want some good banter and something that will make you reach out for your cock and give it the ride of it's life … go ahead and caress my ego. I am not above admitting to loving it. If not here then where?

So yeah ... go ahead ... write.

The Panserbjørne said...

Fantasia: Then where does your email address hide on your site? Can't find it in your profile, your FAQs section, or Who Am I section. You've made it HARD for people to contact you outside the comments! :)

-- PB

Fantasia said...

ask and you shall receive ...

Sexie Sadie~ said...

I, of course, love emails and comments. I appreciate a well crafted, grammatically correct missive, though that isn't overly salacious and drooling. I am glad you respect that. It makes me like you even more, knowing that you have boundaries and you can construct some lovely sentences ;)

I get lots of emails and FB messages from guys telling me I rock. Do I like it? Yes, of course, and I am always appreciative, if done respectfully. I have made some good friendships this way, and it's one of the wonderful thing about this blogging world.

Thanks for not being a mouth-breathing pervert, PB ;)


The Panserbjørne said...

Sadie: You're welcome! Because, y'know, you ladies deserve it. :)

-- PB

frances said...

here i am asking for it. :-)

i wouldn't say i'm all that popular a blogger (yet), though we do have some loyal fans (you being one of them) i personally LOVE to get comments. both naughty and graphic as WELL as playful and friendly. i find it wonderful that you are overly gentlemanly. it honestly makes you more of an attractive person and has made me want to get to know you better. it has created a great bond of respect between us i feel, but please don't hesitate from now on to be both friendly AND smutty with me. ;-)

The Panserbjørne said...

Frances: Wow, what an offer. I do like to be gentlemanly because I can quickly devolve to smutty, whereas if you start OUT rude and rough, it's difficult to be gentlemanly and chivalrous after that. :)

-- PB

frances said...

well said! and yeah? you like that offer?

The Panserbjørne said...

Frances: It's an open invitation to be smutty. Who wouldn't like that? :)

-- PB