TMI Tuesday for 1-29-13: "Describe It"

Describe It

1. Describe your or a lover’s penis with a movie title.

Well, since I haven't had any bisexual play yet, I have to describe my own rather than a lover's. "Die Hard", I think, sums it up pretty well. I have pretty decent stamina, but more than that, I'm pretty much almost always ready to go. And if I'm *not* hard at any given time, it doesn't take more than a few seconds of kissing or stroking to get me there. :)

2. Describe your pussy or a lover’s pussy with a movie title.

Since I don't possess one of my own, I have to go with describing my lover's. "Wild Orchid" works for me. They -- and her pussy -- are just lovely. 

3. Describe your last sexual encounter with a song title. 

"Memory Daydreams Lapses" by the prog-metal project OSI....because it was more than a month and a half ago and I'm starting to forget what sex is like.

 4. Describe your body with a song title.

"Comfortably Numb" by Pink Floyd. I'm not numb, but I am quite comfortable with my body and content in my own skin. I want to lose some weight, but I'm working on that. 

5. Describe your sexual appetite with a book, song, or movie title. 

I'll do better than that -- I'll go all three. For a book, Robert A. Heinlein's "Time Enough for Love", because I feel there should always be time for love, lust and sex in life. For a song, "Can't Get Enuff" by Winger, because my drive is incredibly high. And for a movie, "Some Like It Hot", because well, who doesn't love hot sex with a hot partner?

 Bonus: Recommend your favorite sexy, sensual or kink oriented book.

My favorite sex manual is the dk.com version of the Kama Sutra, "Kama Sutra: Step by Step". Gorgeous models and beautifully illustrated -- very very hot indeed. My favorite series with actual story but lots of sex in it is Jacqueline Carey's first "Kushiel" trilogy.

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TMI Tuesday for 1/22/13

Thanks to an anonymous TMI Tuesday fan and lurker for this week’s TMI Tuesday questions.

Complete each sentence with an anecdote of sexual adventure or misadventure:

1. The first time I . . . realized I might be bisexual, or at least bi-curious, was about two years ago when I was watching a porn clip from somewhere or other, with a girl giving some random guy a blowjob and handjob, and I realized I was spending more time admiring the guy's cock than what she was doing with it. He really had a nice one -- long, smooth, beautiful, pubic hair trimmed very short, shaved balls. I discovered I was fantasizing about what it might be like to lick that big rod, to take his balls in my mouth, to suck on that bulbous head. My own cock was painfully hard at the prospect. "Well now," I thought. "Isn't that interesting." 

2. The last time I . . . had sex was sometime in early December. Not by my choice, but because my girlfriend's drive is so low these days. This is why I have this journal -- to provide an outlet for the fantasies and drive that is still insatiable on my part. :)

3. The only time I . . . ever ran away from somebody who expressed interest in me was in my college days. I may write about this one in more detail sometime; "The One That Got Away" or something. She was in a psych class I was taking and I thought she was lovely, so I asked her out. To my surprise, she said yes. We went out for dinner and it was going quite well; she seemed very interested in and involved with me. And then I found out she had a kid. I'm ashamed to say I ended the date not long after that, and never called her or talked to her again. What a jackass I was back then. Having a kid doesn't mean you can't date, for fuck's sake.

4. My best . . . blowjob was one I got one night from Melissa, about whom I've written in more detail here. I don't know what was so special about that one incident, but she just drove me absolutely out of my skull with pleasure that particular time, bringing me to the edge and back over and over, sucking me long and slow, pumping me with her fist once in a while. It went on for almost twenty minutes, I think, and by the time she finished with me everything in my body was tingling, currents of pleasure running all over me. Her mouth was so hot, so wet, the suction so strong but still so velvety soft. My brain was whirling. I was moaning helplessly, calling her name, grabbing fistsful of the bedsheets, stupefied by lust. When I finally came I unloaded what felt like a gallon of cum down her throat. She swallowed every drop and then swirled her tongue around me until I was completely clean. Then she started caressing me again, and ten minutes later she had me hard again and was riding me in cowgirl....but that's another story.

5. My worst . . . sexual experience was my first one-night stand. I wrote about it in more detail here, when I talked about Michelle. I'm not averse to other one-night stands, but it would have to be with somebody that I had more of a connection with than that.

 BONUS: Everyone, however much experienced, still has some unfulfilled desires. What is at the top of your yet-to-do list?

I've got a huge "want to do" list, but I think the thing that's currently highest on the list is a threesome, either a MMF threesome or a MFF threesome. I think I'd like to start with a MFF but with the right participants, an MMF could be nice too. See above re: bi-curious. :)

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TMI Tuesday: Cheating, Infidelity, Wandering Eyes, Et Cetera

 

Her: I saw you flirting with her. Cheater!
Him: It’s not cheating if we don’t have intercourse.

1. You have been separated from your significant other for six months. An attractive, attentive neighbor has paid you flattering attention. It is obvious he/she wishes to take the relationship further. Do you:
a. Dismiss him/her, you’re in a committed relationship.
b. Continue to flirt, but go no further.
c. Fantasize about him/her, but take care of your sexual needs solo.
d. Let the affair become physical.

Most likely a combination of A and C if I find them that attractive, but unless I had discussed it with my significant other ahead of time, I'd make no overt moves to let it become physical. Simply being separated from your partner for a time, unless you have an open relationship, isn't sufficient reason to sleep with someone else. More on this in a bit.

2. A male co-worker whom you have heard is great in bed and very well endowed has been flirting with you a lot. He obviously wishes to start a relationship. Do you:
(This question is for women AND men).
a. Make it clear to him you’re not interested.
b. Flirt with him but go no further
c. Mentally undress him and wonder what he’d be like in bed.
d. Let the relationship become sexual.

This one's easier. A, for a couple of reasons. Firstly, I don't date (or sleep with) coworkers, ever. There are just too many opportunities for things to go horribly wrong if the relationship disintegrates. Secondly, although I'm plenty bicurious nowadays, I'm still a virgin as far as guys are concerned, and I think I'd rather have my first experience with a guy be as part of a threesome with a girl. Thirdly, see above re: committed relationship with my significant other (again, more on this in a bit).

3. Your significant other is impotent most of the time, showing little interest in you and little interest in being sexual. Do you:
a. Resign yourself to no sex.
b. Satisfy your needs with masturbation
c. Find someone who can satisfy you sexually but remain with your significant other
d. Leave him or her

Okay, now we're starting to hit close to home, because this has more or less been my own situation for the past year and a half. I started this journal in 2009 because I was upset with our lack of a sex life and her apparent disinterest in doing anything about it. Our sex life has dwindled to practically nothing, I'm always the initiator when we DO have sex, there's absolutely no variety, and in general I'm feeling unwanted and undesirable. I've talked to her but the discussions have always been unsatisfying and one-sided. I would have cut loose long ago if it weren't for the fact that many other things in the relationship weren't

So, basically, I HAVE had to resign myself to no sex, or to satisfying myself with masturbation and/or erotic stories and/or porn. Also, as open as I might be to the idea of an open relationship where both of us are free to sleep with whomever we choose, I know for a fact that SHE is not and would never be open to such an idea, so option C is out. The only remaining option is D, and it's looking more and more these days as if that will be the final choice if she continues to refuse to work on the problem.

4. The last time you and your mate had sex, were you:
a. Concentrating mostly on him/her, and you didn’t even orgasm
b. Thinking about your pleasure and theirs.
c. Concentrating mainly on your own pleasure.
d. Used his/her body as a tool to reach your own orgasm.

Concentrating on her. I was giving her oral (three orgasms' worth, in fact). When I finished, she didn't offer to reciprocate, so I didn't get any of my own pleasure (except the pleasure I always get from pleasing her). Unfortunately this has become an all too common scenario lately.

5. What kind of partner do you prefer while making love or having sex?
a. Tender, loving, slow and sweeet
b. I don’t care, just do me; it’s been a while
c. Tough, take-charge, I like it a little rough
d. Any lovin’ is good lovin’

D is definitely the answer here. I like all kinds of variety in sex. Slow and steady and sweet. Hard and rough. Animalistic and ripping clothes. Quickies sandwiched in between other things. Morning sex. Shower sex. Marathon sex. Role playing. Anything and everything goes, as far as I'm concerned. As long as both partners are enthusiastic, it doesn't matter what kind of sex it is; it's going to be fun.

Bonus: Do you mind if your significant other ogles/checks out another sexy person? What if they comment on that person, do you mind that?

Not in the least. This used to upset me, but over the years I've grown more secure with myself. I know there are plenty of other attractive guys out there besides me, but I'm the one she's going home with at the end of the day. Why should I be upset?

Besides, as I mentioned, I really wouldn't mind if she went so far as to actually sleep with the guy. As long as she talked about it with me in advance, and played safely and responsibly, as far as I'm concerned, she's welcome to do as she pleases.  I don't own her. 

Bonus, Bonus: What are your thoughts on the TMI Tuesday image above and the caption beneath it?

I'm in full agreement with the guy. It isn't cheating if there's no sex involved. Flirting is harmless. Looking is harmless. Besides, if I don't care if you look, why should you care if I look? As the great troubadour Jimmy Buffett notes in his song "Bank of Bad Habits":

A picture's worth a thousand words, just ask a cameraman
And it's no sin to stop and look, I do it when I can
But you have to purge that urge to merge, you have to keep your head
Or trouble is what you will find inside some stranger's bed


The bottom line is: whether I'm up for an "open" relationship or not, my partner isn't. So I can look, and I can flirt, and I can write sexy fantasies or stories, but when all's said and done, I'm still loyal to her, even if we are having problems.

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TMI Tuesday #217

I only do these when I feel some of the questions are interesting, or my responses to them are. I think a few of these responses say some revealing things about me. So, here's my answers to TMI Tuesday #217.

1. Have you ever mooned/flashed anyone? How long ago?
See my HNT post from last Thursday. :)

2. Pick an animal that best displays your personality.
Hm. Perhaps a penguin. I'm strange and a little quirky (and, I admit, perhaps a bit roly-poly), look devastatingly good in a tuxedo, and prefer cold weather. 

3. Do you mail out holiday cards, and if so, how do you pick the list?
Never been one to send holiday cards, oddly enough. I say "oddly" because I really do enjoy the winter holidays, both Thanksgiving and Christmas. I do make sure to keep in touch with my friends and family during the holidays, just not with cards. 

4. How often do you wear something sexy to get attention (lingerie, low cut dress, silk boxers, etc...)?
I am sadly ashamed to say I never have. In my current relationship it would be completely ignored; sexy overtures like that just don't seem to be at all interesting to her. In past relationships I've just never done it for some reason. Besides, I sleep in the nude. :)

5. Have you ever tasted breast milk SINCE you were an adult?
The answer to this is yes, but involuntarily. I dated a girl once ("Melissa"; see this entry for more details) who really got off on having her breasts and nipples sucked really really hard. So one time we were going at it and I was sucking hard on her nipples, like usual. The foreplay went on longer than usual this time, and I started noticing a strange taste in my mouth. Eventually it got strong enough to wonder if I was sucking her hard enough to make her bleed or something. I pulled back and discovered her nipples were oozing white droplets. It didn't take much to realize it was breast milk. So I sucked more softly after that, as the taste wasn't something I really cared for.

Bonus: Do you like "talking" when you have sex?
I love it. Dirty talk can be really really hot, from all participants. There's a dichotomy there, though -- if my partner doesn't enjoy it (like my current girlfriend doesn't), then I become pretty silent myself. It's hard to be an enthusiastic talker if there's very little response to it.

Also, I think it's fun to talk and laugh during sex. Sex shouldn't always be deadly serious -- it's essentially a pretty silly act, so talking and laughing during shouldn't be that odd. Unless you're laughing AT the other person. That's a pretty good way to kill the mood pretty quickly.

Double Bonus: If Santa is a guy, how is it that he never seems to get lost?
Christmas magic, naturally.


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-- PB

TMI Tuesday #212

TMI Tuesday is celebrating the Top 100 Sex Journalers of 2009 (which I posted about yesterday) by stealing their questions for this week from the 100th post of the #1 person on the list, the Coquitten. (Go read her, she's excellent).

Anyhow, the questions interested me this week, so I'm going to play too.

1. I lost my virginity at 18, in the back of a car, on prom night. Where and when did you lose yours?
In the bed of a girl I'd flown to visit, knowing that we'd almost certainly end up in bed during the visit. I was 20 years old. A late starter, perhaps....but it wasn't for lack of interest. :)

2. I think my ass is my best sexual feature. What is yours?
I've been told I have a very talented tongue, so I guess I'll go with that. I've also been told I have a very nice cock, so I'll put that down second. :)

3. A recurring theme in my fantasies is being slammed up against the wall. Do you have a recurring fantasy or a theme to your fantasies?
Two themes do keep showing up repeatedly -- firstly, exhibitionistic sex (being watched, not necessarily in a very public place -- just knowing that someone else is watching us fuck), and secondly, very aggressive sex (tearing clothes, breaking furniture, slamming up against walls, raw and primal and urgent). Hell, I'm getting hard just typing that.

4. I love watching guys masturbate. Do you enjoy watching others (a partner or a stranger) masturbate?
I'd love to watch my partner masturbate. My current girlfriend doesn't really like to do it for me, though, so I get my fix from watching vids online.

5. I hate when guys are quiet in bed. I like to hear you moaning as you cum. Do you like you partners quiet? Are you quiet?
I like it loud and enthusiastic, from both sides. I like lots of moans and sighs and yelps. I love dirty talk, both hearing it and giving it. The filthier the better. And I like to be loud myself, but if my partner's the quiet type it has a very inhibiting effect on me and quiets me down too. The converse is also true, of course -- the louder you get, the louder I'll get too, in a very pleasant feedback loop.

6. I love playing with nipples. Do you having your nipples played with?
This is something that does absolutely nothing for me, I'm afraid. Some guys love it, it just leaves me cold. 

7. My ‘number’ is between 15 and 25. What is your 'number'?
I was going to dissemble about this and refuse to answer, but hell, what is this journal for if it isn't to be honest? I've had six partners, which roughly translates to one every three years I've been active (I'll be 37 this year).

.........Good god, how sad. I have to go kill myself now.

-- PB

TMI Tuesday #207

Busy, busy, busy today. Too busy for a really thoughtful entry, but I can squeeze in a TMI Tuesday.

1. What is your underwear "style" of choice?
Tighty-whities when I need support for the meat-and-two-veg, boxers when I want to be comfy, and commando when I want to be naughty. Mostly boxers.

2. How old were you when you had your first sexual experience?
I was 20 years old. Late starter, I'm afraid.

3. What about a potential partner turns you on?
Is she openminded? Is she outgoing? Is she attractive to me (yes, I'm a dog, physical attraction IS important)? Is she smart, funny, witty, interested in at least a few of the things that I enjoy in and out of the bedroom?

And, more to the point, does she love sex? Is she an enthusiastic partner? Is her drive similar to mine?

4. Have you ever played a game which may require you or others to disrobe?
No, sadly.

5. Given or received finger scratch marks during sexual activity?
Oh yes. It's lots of fun. I was at the gym once, the day after a night of fun with my partner of the time. A fellow gym-goer looked at the red furrows on my back and asked me if I'd been fucking Catwoman or something. I was amused.

Bonus: How many times is the most you have ever had sex in a 24 hour period?
This is kind of a repeat. I mentioned last week that my personal record is nine instances of actual penetrative sex, with many more instances of oral and digital play to make up for it when the flesh was weak. We were both pretty exhausted when it was all over with.

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TMI Tuesday #206

Utterly exhausted today for lack of sleep. Horrible dreams last night and I think I would have gotten more rest if I'd been cracked over the head with a baseball bat and been rendered unconscious. Not sure I'm up for anything more intellectual than this week's TMI Tuesday, so here 'tis.

1. Have you used put anything edible on (or in) your partner's body and then eaten it?
Sure. Chocolate body frosting is pretty tasty, actually, although she was a lot tastier after I'd been painting and then licking up the frosting for a while.

2. Have you ever had an AIDS test due to reasonable suspicion or hyperactive imagination?
Nope. I take the standard battery of tests before having sex with any new partner, but I've never even had any suspicions.

3. Have you ever fantasized about someone else other than your partner while you were engaged in sex, oral sex, or mutual masturbation?
During solo masturbation, yes, but during any cooperative acts I am surprisingly unlikely to stray in my thoughts. I'm usually bending all of my mind towards pleasing my partner, and so they're normally foremost in my thoughts. Sure, I've strayed once or twice, but it's rare. 

4. Have you ever engaged in sex, oral sex, or mutual masturbation while in a moving car? A car being driven by someone not engaged in the sex, oral sex, or mutual masturbation?
This is one of my biggest fantasies -- to have someone go down on me while I was driving. Hasn't happened yet. I've also tried fondling my partner while she was driving or riding as a passenger but she didn't like that and made me stop.

5. Have you ever had sex so many times or for so long that one or both people involved runs dry?
Not in a single unbroken session, but I have managed 9 times in a single 24-hour period, which is my personal record. That was 9 instances of actual penetrative sex -- there was plenty of oral sex and digital stimulation as well. At the end of that neither of us wanted anything other than sleep. :)

Bonus (as in optional): Name 5 things an unplanned (or planned) visitor would find in your bedroom?
-- An unmade bed
-- Bookcases with tons of books
-- Alarm clock
-- Dresser
-- End table

Sure, you can play TMI Tuesday too.

-- PB

TMI Tuesday #204

It's TMI Tuesday again! More boring answers from yours truly. 

1. Have you ever shared sleeping accommodations with someone of the _______ without anything steamy happening? ("Opposite sex" for breeders, "same sex" for homosexuals).

Yes, and it's one of the great regrets of my (sex) life. This was a girl who'd told me several times that she had a crush on me and had come over one evening specifically to hang out, drink, and watch movies; when it got late she even asked if I'd mind if she stayed the night. Hello, stupid, pick up the signals! She had a fabulous rack, too. So why the hell didn't I do anything when we went to bed? I still do not know! There was some snuggling, and some sleepy fondling, but it never went beyond that.

A few weeks after that, probably annoyed at me, she began dating someone and is now happily married to him. I was delighted for her, but am still pissed that I never took the swing when I had the chance.

2. Have you ever streaked, flashed, or otherwise partially or totally exposed yourself in public before (or after) an informal, unofficial gathering of people?

Hell, no. I may fantasize about sex in public but I would probably wuss out if the opportunity to streak or flash someone ever arose. I'm just not that much of a sharer. :)

3. Have you had dates with multiple people in the same weekend (or consecutive nights or the same night) while not all of your dates were aware of your actions?

I always had difficulty enough just dating one person. Multiples would have strained my abilities. I'm more open to the idea now but I'm still not the sort who's popular enough to hook up every night with a different woman.

4. What is the most "romantic" you have ever gotten in a movie theater?

Holding hands and occasionally kissing, see above re: sex in public. 

5. Have you ever had sex when you knew a non-participating adult was watching?

No, but this one is very high on the fantasy list. I kind of get off on the idea of somebody else watching us and getting turned on by it. Of course, I'd have to find a partner who was up for it as well.....

Bonus (as in optional): If you could say anything you wanted anonymously to anyone, without identifying that person, what would you say?

I'd like to have a threesome with you and another woman, or possibly you and another man if you preferred that.  (I've become more bi-curious as I've gotten older).

-- PB

TMI Tuesday

Good lord, you people were busy over the Labor Day weekend. You've all got me squirming in my chair, trying to ignore the precome soaking through my shorts. And the Cock Tale I'm working on for Luna Mauvaise doesn't help any. I suspect there will be a beat-off session before too much longer....

Well, here's this week's TMI Tuesday!

1) If you were to only live until the age of 50, how would you live your life differently?

 I'd take a lot more chances than I do now. I tend to be very timid about some things, which is part of the reason I created this journal -- to test and explore my limits on sex.

2) Are you settling in your job/career?

Not sure whether this means "settling for too little" or whether it means "settling in comfortably". Probably the latter, in which case the answer is "no, I'm not happy with what I'm doing and I am actively working to change it".


3) Are you settling with your significant other?

Still not sure what "settling" means; again, I'm assuming it means "settling in comfortably". Six months ago I would have said yes. Now there are problems with the relationship and I'm trying to work them out -- when I can get her to talk to me, that is. 

4) How important is your family?

Put simply, they are everything to me. They are the people for whom I would sacrifice everything I had without a moment's thought. 

5) If you caught a neighbor peeping in at you while you were naked or having sex, would you close the blinds? (assuming you live in a city and can see into other buildings).

Years ago I would have said yes, but now I find the idea of being seen nude or having sex to be rather a turn-on. I think I'd leave them open. That would largely depend on my partner, though; my girlfriend would be likely to object.

Want to play too? Hit up TMI Tuesday for the questions, or just copy them from me.

There will be more content a bit later today as I've been musing over quite a few things with respect to relationships. Hope everyone had a great Labor Day weekend.

-- PB

TMI Tuesday: Location, Location, Location

Looking at these questions, it appears this is going to be a monumentally boring post from me. "Not yet" on most of them. A shame, really....who wants to help out with that? *smirk* 

1. If you could have monumental sex where would it be (i.e. on Lincoln's lap, the stairwell of the Statute of Liberty)?

Hm. I have to think that sex on top of Devil's Tower would be pretty incredible. (What? It's a national monument).

2. Have you ever "played" with your food (i.e. a blowjob under booth #9 at Denny's, finger banging by candlelight at Spago)?

I have fondled my partner a few times under the table at a restaurant once but haven't had the opportunities I might like to. No blowjobs under the table, regrettably.

3. Have you ever had sex in motion (i.e. the lavatory on Virgin Air, the back seat of your Chevy Suburban)?

No Mile High Club or road head yet. I've had sex in an RV, but it wasn't in motion.

4. Have you ever had sex worthy of a confessional (i.e. a stall in the church bathroom, on the desk in your boss's office)?

I've masturbated in the bathroom at my workplace before. No confessional-worthy sex, though.

5. Have you ever had sex under the stars (i.e. in the alley behind Scores Gentleman's Club, the roof of your South Beach condo)?

This is one of the ones I'd most like to fulfill -- sex under the stars on a beach or out in the Arizona desert with the stars glittering like diamond dust above. 

Bonus: What's your favorite place (of all places) to have sex (i.e. The Bunny Ranch, Las Vegas)?

Wherever and whenever my partner is. That's an easy one. Cool places I'd LIKE to have sex, though, include Yellowstone National Park, Disney World, Wrigley Field, a nude beach on the Riviera, and many many more.

If you want to play too, hit up TMI Tuesday to get your questions! Or just copy from my post. That works too.

 -- PB