tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7689622098160989072.post7931952757187357410..comments2023-09-01T04:35:15.169-05:00Comments on Insatiabear: A Panserbjørne's Musings: TMI Tuesday: Cheating, Infidelity, Wandering Eyes, Et CeteraThe Panserbjørnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10643891392421573706noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7689622098160989072.post-9102213379720252932011-08-10T10:56:32.975-05:002011-08-10T10:56:32.975-05:00Do you mind if your significant other ogles/checks...<i>Do you mind if your significant other ogles/checks out another sexy person? What if they comment on that person, do you mind that?</i><br />I'm with you on that in terms of looking when in the streets. It does take a good amount of self confidence, though some people are just really sensitive that some self restraint wouldn't go amiss at times for a little peace between a couple. :\<br /><br />What else am I frowning about?<br />(And you're own man, I'm curious to know more into your reasoning/feelings behind some of your answers)<br /><br /><i><b>"I don't own her</b>, she can sleep with whoever as long as she tells me in advance"</i><br />Eh...<br />Well if the relationship is open and both are free to go wherever, then fine, otherwise I wouldn't see monogamy as 'to own someone'.<br /><br />You kinda 'own' each other; or rather, it's a mutual surrender to each person together with all the trust, love, hope, fears, and habits good and bad. :)<br /><br />As for the looking and flirting.<br />It's a similar situation some people had with 'my man watches more porn than spends time with me' etc etc.<br />If one is hiding their activity and projecting their desires onto other source while actually having intimacy/emotional issues with their actual partner than no, cheating isn't only a form of the physical act, there’s emotional too. <br />Depends where your heart and mind are and while it seems you can stick by the lines you draw in your case Panser, for many it all blurs and before they know it, one 'harmless' secret look or flirt here or there has developed into their object(s) of desire going elsewhere. Their thoughts and feelings are hardly into the actual relationship that they're having trouble with anymore, all this takes away synergy away from the partner.<br /><br />Grey area matter, but short of a couple openly checking out naked pictures or both being aware of each other's activities and are fine, when one is left in the dark, it starts going wrong from there.<br />(Or the issue at hand deteriorates)<br />In your case however, given that you’ve given us so much ‘panser history’ which details how you grew and matured sexually, where you’re stuck now is, if not already been draining and sucking you dry (pun partially intended), that option D (split) may seem a sad but inevitable reason.<br />I do hope things somehow resolve somewhere and I actually admire that you’ve physically not gone elsewhere but I wonder how much of your heart and thoughts remain tied to your partner or has it died its natural death…<br /><br />Which brings me to one question. If you were in a happy, sexually fulfilling relationship, do you think you could still write the fantasies that you do since you’d actually be living them anyways, there’d be no need for an outlet, right?<br /><br />PS:<br />110% agree on the sex question, variety is the spice of life and surely people try different things depending on what mood strikes between a couple with good chemistry :)Mystiquenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7689622098160989072.post-21600433341333711902011-08-09T14:36:29.720-05:002011-08-09T14:36:29.720-05:00Love your answer: "I know there are plenty o...Love your answer: "I know there are plenty of other attractive guys out there besides me, but I'm the one she's going home with at the end of the day." You are right!<br /><br />I agree that flirting and looking are harmless. Love those J. Buffett lyrics you posted. Very true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7689622098160989072.post-45641612508103468122011-08-09T13:02:53.549-05:002011-08-09T13:02:53.549-05:002. I like your in-depth, honest response.
3. Fra...2. I like your in-depth, honest response. <br /><br />3. Frank, and with explanation. Great answers.<br /><br />4. Awww. For me, many times the most pleasure is derived from pleasing my lover.<br /><br />5. I am glad you clarified that as long as both partners are enthusiastic. Without this what's the point.<br /><br />I enjoyed your TMI Tuesday,<br /><br />-HAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com