Some of you, if my inbox is any indication, are quite worried about me, wondering why I haven't posted in several weeks. I regret the necessity. Here's the reason.
On the afternoon of August 28th, after a very pleasant solo lunch out with friends, I was hit by a drunk driver who ran a red light and plowed into the left rear quarter-panel of my car at an estimated eighty miles per hour.
The casualties: a totaled car, multiple cracked ribs, a fractured wrist, sprained back, wrenched knee, some damage to cervical vertebrae, minor bumps and abrasions and one truly astounding bruise on my chest from the seatbelt, and most importantly, a severe concussion bad enough to keep me in a sleep so deep it was near a coma for about two weeks. But, astoundingly, nothing permanent, maiming or disfiguring, or lasting, and nothing that's going to leave any scars. The doctors and nurses who've been taking very good care of me say I must have an angel watching over me. I didn't see any reason to argue that I'm an atheist, because I figured they might actually have a point.
The police say it could have been much worse but he only struck me a glancing blow. The problem is that at eighty MPH, even a glancing blow is pretty damn bad. I have no memory of the wreck, but witnesses say that I almost managed to get out of his way (thank you, reflexes) or he would have plowed straight into my side, and then things could have ended much worse for me. As it was, my car spun around almost 720 degrees and rolled.
I was out, out, like a candle, for another two weeks. I'm told I drifted in and out but was never "up" for more than five minutes at a time. When I swam back to consciousness for good, it was the tenth anniversary of 9/11. Not a very happy day to awaken, but paradoxically so for me. When the green ripper has had his swing at you and missed, any day is a happy day. I spent several more days in the hospital for observation and came home on the afternoon of the 15th.
Fortunately for me, there will be no legal wranglings from this because the other driver died at the scene after going through the windshield (not only was he so drunk he had a near-fatal BAC of .42, but he also was stupid enough not to wear a seatbelt). He was also insured (thank you, fates) so his insurance company, rather than my own, is paying for my two-week hospital stay and is giving me a fairly generous settlement for my beloved car (and my smashed cellphone, which happened to be on the seat alongside me and thus wound up rather the worse for its traumatic battering). They will also be paying for my doctor visits for my neck injuries, which will require some therapy for an undetermined time.
So I got back online yesterday and found a blizzard of messages in my inbox wondering where I was and whether I was okay. So, yes: I'm okay now, or will be soon. My neck hurts, my ribs hurt, my knee hurts, my wrist hurts (they say I should get the cast off in another couple weeks -- at least it's not my dominant hand), and I still get killer headaches about once a day -- but I'm alive, and hanging in there, and getting better every day. My partner has been taking very good care of me and doting on me hand and foot. I'm lucky to have her, and luckier still that she wasn't in the car with me to be victimized as well.
So, now you know (as Paul Harvey would say) The Rest of the Story. There will be a new FFF challenge next Monday, but until then, be of good cheer, love each other, and don't fucking drink and drive.
-- PB
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
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25 comments:
OMG! So sorry this had to happen to you. I send good thoughts for a continuous healing.
A Panserbjørne survives combat! You picked your avatar in advance to signify your strength and it has served you well.
Full recovery! And as Conan would say: "Live! Love! Slay!"
Very, very glad to hear you are well and glad to have you back. But heal first and we will muddle through until you are well.
Glad to hear you are now in recovery! We all missed you while you were gone.
I'm sure that everyone would understand if you need to postpone your return for longer than a week! :-)
Sending Hugs and thoughts of recovery your way!
xox
-Goldi
Well that's a really good reason not to blog, I think. Although I think we all would have accepted, "My computer broke and I couldn't get online." Or anything less unpleasant for you. But it doesn't matter; what matters is that at the end of it you're okay. Take all the time you need, and we'll all be sitting right here waiting when you feel up to it. I'm so glad you're okay, or going to be. Really, really glad.
Armored Bear is right. I'm so sorry you've had to go through this, no one should. I'm guessing this will only make you stronger. It's the best possible outcome that everything will be insured and that you will heal. You seem to be in such good spirits, I have no doubt you will persevere.
When I sent you the message, I considered some options, but had no idea of how traumatic your absence has been. I wish you well in your healing process and you will be in my prayers.
*kisses*
+pounce!!+ The bear is back!! :D
And definitely glad to hear you're back and alive!!
Welcome back : )
WOW.
Glad you're okay after all that!! certainly a good excuse not to be around.
Welcome back...
~Kazi
I'm very glad you are back, alive and kicking. :)
Best wishes for a speedy recovery!
Glad to hear you are nearly well and sorry to hear what you went through. You are very luck indeed. I think any contact at 80 mph is devastating.
As everyone has said, take the time you need and let yourself be pampered a bit. See you back on the keyboard soon.
Be well.
Holy shit! How awful. I'm very glad that you are on your way to a full recovery. Take care of yourself. :)
Eep! *hugs* Glad you are alive, and okay (for a given value of okay). well done for making it out better than your car and your phone.
Thinking of you.
xx Dee
PB I am so glad that you are going to be okay; That you lived to tell this amazing tale.
Don't push yourself too fast, though the sooner you rescue us from the prose nazis the better. They've simply gone mad.
-H
So glad you are okay - what a truly frightening tale!
Panser, I am so glad that you are okay. Take it easy because head injuries like that are so rough and sneaky. One of my sons still suffers from light issues and wears sunglasses all the time.
Lots and lots of healing energy heading your way.
Dear friend, I'm so glad you're alive and recovering and here to tell us this cautionary tale. I thank the angels for taking good care of you, PB... xx
I'm so sorry to hear this news, but glad to hear that a full recovery is expected. As I hope you've gathered from your inbox, there's been much talk and worry about you among the FFF and blog community.
And don't listen to Hedone, by the way. :-) She's a malcontent, and if she stops by your office after class, give her a few extra swats for me! :-)
Gosh that's awful but thank goodness you're alive. Take it easy friend and enjoy the pampering (or even milk it)!
sev
Thanks so very much to everyone who sent nice thoughts to me, either by private email or by leaving comments here! They really help soothe the aches and pains. (Well, not really, but they help soothe the mental hurts, anyway).
Sweets: I'm sorry, too, but we don't get to choose when things like that happen, do we? Thanks for the good thoughts.
SunLover: Apparently I did without knowing it. I shall keep Conan's mantra in mind (though I always though it was "to crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and hear the lamentations of their women!"
Ryan Beaumont: I am healing well enough to sit at the computer for an hour or so before my back starts to hurt. That's long enough to take care of administrivia and suchlike. Thanks for the concerns!
Goldi: I think I can manage a return by now. Computer work is, at least, less strenuous than (say) construction work, or I'd really be in trouble. Thanks!
Lexi: Trust me, I'd much rather have had an excuse like that, too, but like I said to Sweets, well, we don't always get to pick our options, do we? I'm glad you're glad, though. It's nice to feel loved. Thanks so much!
Topaz: I don't know so much about making me stronger (Spider-Man once said that "that which doesn't kill me....still hurts. A LOT.") but we'll see, I guess. I appreciate the kind thoughts.
Silly Mistress: Back in somewhat damaged form, but still back nevertheless. Thanks for the welcome words.
Kazi: I thank you for your welcome as well! It's nice to know I was missed.
France: The best wishes are enormously appreciated. I am indeed alive and kicking, although perhaps kicking a bit less because that hurts my knee. Heh. (Truthfully, the knee is the least of the injuries, really).
David: You hit it on the head: any contact at that speed is a big one. Thanks for the words of comfort, they are appreciated indeed.
Lola: Full recovery may be a ways down the road, but at least I'm ON the road. I am definitely taking care of myself as I don't want to be out of action longer than I can help it. I don't LIKE being an invalid.
Dee: "For a given value of okay" sums it about up, I think. Humans are pretty adaptable creatures, really; we can deal with just about anything if you push us hard enough. I appreciate you thinking of me.
Hedone: That is one of my failings, I think; I do tend to push myself too fast in a lot of respects. Probably in this one too because (as I said) I don't LIKE being an invalid and want to be up and active again. But I'll try not to overdo it. Thanks for the kind words.
Chloe: I am definitely glad as well. It didn't frighten me at the time (it was over too fast for that) but when I woke up again I had a serious case of the jitters when I thought how close it could have been. I appreciate your stopping by.
Wordwytch: Don't I know it. The headaches come and go, real killers sometimes. I am really trying not to overdo it and am backing off at the first sign I'm overstressing myself. Healing energy gratefully received, thanks!
Minx: Angels, fates, or just really good luck -- I don't care what the hell it was as long as it resulted in me not dying. I am very thankful for a lot of things, not least of which is the friends I've made here (of which you are one). Thank you for the kind words!
Max: I was really surprised at how many people had missed me while I was gone, and doubly surprised by the response to this entry. I guess you like me, you really like me! Thanks.
Sev: I'm trying to enjoy being pampered, but it's tempered by frustration at being out of commission. I can be lazy on my own time, dammit. I don't like being FORCED to be lazy. Thanks for the concern!
-- PB
Something was watching out for you for damn sure! Heal Quickly, Insatiabear!!! Glad you are back amongst us!
Jack
*hugs gently* good to see you back Panser dear, you would of been sorely missed! Having survived going through a windshield myself, count yourself lucky my friend :)
though you might want to find out where this man was served his alcohol at and allowed to drive away. They are actually responsible for his behavior.
Jack: Thanks so much, it's nice to know I was missed!
Sephani: Already done. The police reported that he had been drinking at home, alone (and they only know this because of a drunken phonecall made before he got in his car). No bar or restaurant served him. Thanks for the suggestion, though, and for the concerns!
-- PB
You probably already know this, but make sure you don't sign anything regarding medical claims with the other guy's insurer before you are *completely* medically cleared by all your doctors / therapists / etc. They will be constantly pressuring you (as in, every couple of days, after a while) to agree that you're healed. Ignore them. And don't forget lost earnings, etc.
Jon
*hugs* Gosh! I'm so glad you've come out of that ok.
Faile x
Jon: You're correct, they have been pressuring me, but I have indeed been ignoring them (I don't react well to intimidation tactics). But thanks for the tip!
Faile: So am I; thanks for dropping by to say so!
-- PB
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